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Becoming the Rainbow's avatar

I'm a gay guy but if I were in a position to talk to an adolescent boy about his romantic life I wouldn't open by asking him if he had a boyfriend. I'd ask if he had a girlfriend. Most people are straight and, despite societies increasing openness in this regard, there's still some stigma around being gay. I figure that if a kid is gay and wants to let me know, he will. Kids don't need instruction from grown ups about how to feel same sex attraction. Believe me, I know.

I figure the same is true for trans kids. I wouldn't ask a kid if he "identifies" as a boy or a girl, but instead make that determination the old fashion way, by appearance. People who are genuinely trans will figure that out and let the rest of us know when they're ready. My job as an adult isn't to teach about the various possibilities and offer choices. If someone wants to express themselves in a way that doesn't comport with gender norms, I can be accepting. That's good enough. Kids don't need instruction in these matters. They will come to know the truth of who they are in their own time. What kids need from the adults in their lives is just love and acceptance.

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SimulationCommander's avatar

There's no such thing as trans rights. People have human rights, and that does not include going into the girls locker room as a male and taking a shower.

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